Thought I’d share a less fashion, more personal kinda post.. and it’s a long one!
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I took the full 12 weeks maternity leave when I had Harlie. I’ve been asked before what would be something I would do differently next go ‘round and the answer is easy… relax & enjoy my new baby!
I’ve already told my best friend who’s having Harlie’s future BFF in January what NOT to do lol. Both Justin and myself have never been ones to come home from work and lounge. We just aren’t good at that, we have to be doing something, although recently we’re trying to get better at doing “nothing”. I consumed myself with keeping the chores done like before baby, and reorganizing the entire house that those 12 weeks FLEW by. I also had to be told several times by Justin and my family that I was just cut open 3 layers deep and should seriously rest and recover.
So I wasn’t exactly sure where I wanted to go with this post, so I’m sorry if it seems like I’m rambling and a little random.
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Things I’ve learned after becoming a mama:
1. The small stuff doesn’t matter. Like if someone breastfed their child or gave them a bottle. I did both. Like if they let their kid run around without shoes on, or a hoodie if I think it’s too cold to not have one on. If I make Hamburger Helper for dinner instead of organic chicken and roasted veggies. As long as my family has food on the table, we’re good.
2. That I don’t care if I look or seem like a “Hot Mess”. No one, and I repeat NO ONE is on their A game 100% of the time. No one cares if you run into them at the grocery store with no makeup on and a hat on top of your 3 day old hair. Although I’ve never been one that wouldn’t leave the house without hair and/or makeup, but the point is post that picture of your kid crying instead of the perfect posed one. It’s funny and people will see that’s real life and your kid does poop on their clothes, and spill stuff in your car. If it hasn’t happened to them yet, it will. I was pooped and peed on at Harlie’s newborn photos at 6 days old. No better way to “Welcome to Motherhood!”.
3. Time with your hubby is SO important. I knew once baby girl was here it wouldn’t be easy to have alone or random quality time like before. I am so thankful that we “grew up together” basically before we decided to start a family. This year marked 13 freaking years with Justin! To my prego ladies, or ones that are thinking about starting a family- take a trip. Go somewhere even if it’s to rent a cabin 30min away, take time to yourselves because it’s so hard to after kids to just sit on the couch and talk, watch a movie. We are still going back and forth with Harlie sleeping through the night completely and her afternoon schedule is always different because ours are too. Some nights we go out to eat, some I cook, some we eat a sandwich at 9pm. So I know it’s our doing as to her not having a strict schedule. But our lives aren’t on a strict schedule so it’s hard for hers to be. That being said, some nights we get to eat dinner at home by ourselves while she went to bed at 7pm. Others she has to eat with us then bath time with one of us. We never know when or if we will get alone time.
4. Sometimes you just need to cry. Luckily I was blessed to not have to go through PPD after giving birth. I know some friends that did, and I always just prayed they would get out of their funk. Motherhood is hard. It’s fun, it’s tiring, it’s the biggest blessing, and sometimes feels like the biggest headache. At the end of the day when I’m cuddling with her before bedtime, nothing else matters. Sometimes I’ll cry just looking at how perfect I think she is and how happy I am that God chose me to be a mother. So it’s okay to cry, whether it be from happiness, stress, or from how exhausted you are. You’ll feel better afterwards, I promise! 🙂
5. How much excitement you can get from someone else’s achievements.I literally have to hold myself back from posting 1-3 pictures a day of Harlie. I know everyone else is like, yeah -ok just another baby doing this or that. So I refrain myself! But seriously, I love this little girl and every time she does something new or something funny my camera is out and documenting everything. She’s at such a fun age now that me and Justin love to see what foods she will eat (which is everything so far!), or how long she can stand by herself. It’s reliving your life and childhood through this little human you created and it’s the best thing ever.
I could keep going on, but I think this is long enough! Hope you enjoyed a little personal time with me and enjoy your day! Thanks for reading.