At some point every girl gets to be a bridesmaid, then eventually a bride. Of course being the one in white is always more fun, but that doesn't mean being a bridesmaid and throwing a memorable bachelorette party can't be fun also!
I've been a bridesmaid several times and each and every bride and their idea of a nice bachelorette party is so different. I always suggest asking for some ideas or a list of NO's from the bride herself. The last thing you want to do is take her to a painting class when she wanted a beach getaway. Or schedule a hair stylist for the day of when she has someone already booked for the bridal party. So where do you begin?
Bachelorette Party Check List
1. Get a guest list from the bride
2. Choose a theme, location, and date
3. Book early and save. (Hotels and plane tickets go up the closer to the date)
4. Send out invitations/details. (Leave some wiggle room in itinerary, you don't want to over book yourselves)
5. Decide games, decorations, and props.
6. Don't involve the bride in everything. Let some things be a surprise.
7. Be safe. If there will be alcohol involved, plan a way home/back to the hotel.
8. Have fun! Make a night the bride and the ladies won't forget!
Now on to the rest of the wedding planning process as a bridesmaid. Here's six tips for being a kick-ass bridesmaid.
1. Save money ahead of time. Being in a wedding party isn't the cheapest thing in the world. There's the dress, accessories, bach party, gifts, and any travel expenses.
2. Reminder: It's not YOUR day. Go with the flow and bite your tongue when she picks out the same dress every other bride has or decides on the ugliest centerpieces. It's her day, not yours.
3. Start planning early. Ask the bride what she's going to need your help with and what dates she has in mind for her showers, bach party, and any other occasions.
4. Help keep the guys in line. I think this is true for 90% of the groomsmen in weddings.. they are always running late. They plan to get ready in 20 minutes so they have the rest of the day for a round of golf, or some beer pong, etc. They never plan for anything to go wrong or for any traffic and so on. When it gets to the rehearsal day, start checking in on them and making sure they aren't going to be the cause of a wedding day fail.
5. Prepare an emergency kit. If there is a wedding out there that had NOTHING at all go wrong during the entire process, I'd love to go back in time and attend. You have always got to prepare for the worse, and be there to save the day when the bride's dress zipper breaks, or the maid of honor stains her dress with her mimosa. Pack a kit that is handy on the wedding day with bobby pins, safety pins, kleenex, stain pen, fashion tape, mints, and so on.
6. Don't get wasted. By all means, after being a bridesmaid for 6-12 months you deserve to finally let loose at the reception but don't go overboard. As a bridesmaid you represent the bride and I highly doubt she wants to see a sloppy bridesmaid at her wedding.
Have any funny or embarrassing stories of being a bridesmaid? I'd love to hear them!